A Guy in the Bar.

You know the guy in the bar.

He can fix every one's problems, he's been there and done that, he has an opinion on everything. If you share your problem with him, he'll sort you out!

The guy in the bar is everywhere. He doesn't relate to you and your unique circumstances. He just hears your problems and comes up with his solutions. That's just what he does - that's his thing. His ego feeds off being a solution to people's problems.

But if you want to be heard, you need to find someone who is skilled in and capable of listening.

The best person at listening in a bar is the bartender. Not only is he usually the only sober one in the joint, his effectiveness at making money for his boss comes from his ability to hear and read the people on the other side of the bar.

...and if you catch him when he's not busy, you might find yourself being heard by him and your truth fed back to you accurately.

Coaches have to renounce being the guy in the bar. You can't coach and have it be about you. That's not what it's all about.

You have to be the barman - your only agenda is to listen acutely, give accurate feedback and ask questions.

It ain't glamorous, it doesn't feed your hungry ego....but it works for whoever you are listening to!

Mike Kennedy,
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