Being a Victim: Lesson number 3:

 Choosing will set you free!

 Allow me to explain.

“You have brains in your head. You have feet in your shoes. You can steer yourself any direction you choose. You're on your own. And you know what you know. And YOU are the one who'll decide where to go...” Dr Seuss

This is called choice.

And the funny thing about choice, is that it puts you in a position of power as soon as you make a choice.

Not only that, it has a funny effect of having the universe conspire to support you in that choice.

Anyone who is serious about being a victim, refuses to see the possibility of choice in their circumstances or predicament.  They will fight you if you even suggest that they could "Choose" their current circumstances.  The thought of having a choice undermines the belief in Helplessness and general "Victimhood"

So if this is true, and the humble act of making a choice, any choice, including to choose what you got, does make a difference, wouldn't that be a good thing to explore and get to know more about?

Nelson Mandela chose to be strong in jail.  What can you choose to be in your current situation?

One trap you can fall into is agonizing about making the "right" choice. This is a common Victim strategy and you move into "Analysis Paralysis" and end up frozen and unable to act.

With choices, there is no Good/Bad, Right/Wrong, Better than/ Less than judgements - you simply need to make a choice. It's a common Military saying that a bad decision is better than not making a decision.

Another saying is: "If you don't stand for something, you'll fall for anything"

If you are playing a Victim role, you don't want to stand for anything, you don't want to make a choice and you certainly avoid making any type of decision.

But, if you want to get out off the "Victim" Role, if you want to find your locus of power and focus, then Choose powerfully whatever you choose.

If you want an easy and are open to seeing a surprising result, try consciously choosing exactly what is happening in your life right now - even if it's really uncomfortable, or unfair or painful.  Be unreasonable.  Choose your situation and choose how you are going to be with it.  And follow it through.

The Power of choice always helps you break free of being a victim and allows you to engage in your life as a powerful creator. Have a try at it!

This is only the beginning. Get to know clarity. Email me, Mike Kennedy...

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