I was helping a new client to set their three inspiring goals for the next three months and I asked them if they thought I could inspire them. It's a question I ask every time I do a trial session, and it helps me see if there is a good fit between coach and client.
They answered by saying how they were inspired by me and what I had done.
I stopped them and made a point, that I had just realised.
"I'm more concerned that I inspire you about you - I don't care whether you are inspired by me - I want you to be inspired by you!"
On reflecting, I must have been visible to them throughout the session - "Bugger!" I do my best work then I'm "invisible" to them and then all they get inspired by is their amazing selves during the session.
Ah me, the life of the coach is constant, never ending improvement!
However, I am absolutely inspired by this new client and know that if they really want to ensure their inspiring goals are achieved and if they want to achieve the promise of the coaching process - "Always Clarity! Always Learning! Always Moving Forward!"...that they will find a way to make it all happen.
A coach only exists to enable others to access and live into their own greatness. A coach only measures themselves by how much of that they drag out of their proteges.
And Rose got this amazing DVD called the "Miracle", that demonstrates this really well - check it out!
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Actually I disagree. I think that the coach needs to be visible otherwise he/she has no impact. The fact that the coach is holding you accountable means that he/she has human reactions to what the coachee is trying to achieve. Otherwise you may as well talk to yourself. But knowing that the coach will be diappointed/angry/upset with what you have/have not done is a HUGE motivator I think. Also of course it matters what the coach has achieved. A homeless bum would not make an inspiring coach.
Thanks Deb, I guess I could have written the post like: "If you are inspired by who I am, you are missing the point!"
I would hate to have a wonderful coach, who I hang off their wonderful words and I never got to see how wonderful I am - for who I am - my unique genious, my unknown strengths, my own hidden code of values and all that needs to come forth so I can achieve my lofty and challenging goals.
From where I stand, it appears to me amazing to see the breakthroughs that people have, simply by listening and focusing on themselves.
And also, even though a homeless bum would be hard to explain to my peers and colleagues, these people often make amazing observations and distinctions that you and I never even consider. They sometimes make better coaches than many professionals I know.
True, but I think that you need to repect the person enough to listen to them in the first place. So even if the homeless person said something amazing, you would probably just wonder what drugs he was taking rather than listen to what he was saying. Plus its a whole different step just listening to listening AND taking action!
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